I’ve been trying to meet new friends and new people to hang out with so have been going to a lot of social events.

I noticed that everyone seems to ask for my instagram account and when I say I don’t have one that connection kind of dies, and it feels too personal to ask for someone number when I just met them.

I don’t want to create an instagram because of the privacy invasions of meta but I also don’t want to feel left out when trying to make new connections. Anyone have any advice?

  • hansolo@lemmy.today
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    6 hours ago

    An IG account isn’t a phone number or email, and I think it’s weird that young people treat it like it is.

    Just say you don’t do social media, and if they can’t respect that, it’s a quick test as to if they’re your people or not.

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      4 hours ago

      That is a good point, when I say I don’t have any social media more than half the time people respect it, almost like I’m saying I’m X years sober from alcohol.

      But I still feel like I’m tempted to make an account to avoid this additional social friction. Maybe I won’t use it for anything except getting people’s contact info in these situations. I’m not sure I’m a bit torn.

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      6 hours ago

      It can also be a good conversation starter. Some people genuinely don’t know or care about the social media corporations spying on us. You can have some interesting conversations with them.

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        Or come across as a weirdo, conspiracy theory, antisocial, tech obsessive nerd.

        I mean, it’s not inaccurate, but not maybe how to present initially when you meet someone.